Dad Matters

Dad Matters & 1001 Critical Days Funding

A passion for ensuring every child has the Best Start in life

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How Can I Bond with my new baby?

If it feels a bit awkward try playing your baby your favourite songs, telling
them about your hobbies, your work or your ambitions for their future.

•Pick your baby up when they cry and respond to their smiles, coos, and other vocalizations. You cannot spoil a newborn. 

How can I help my babies brain develop

Your baby’s brain wiring (neural pathways) is around 20% connected when they are born.

•How well that wiring develops can affect the way they communicate, handle problems, and how they learn.
Consistent, positive and loving relationships help your baby’s brain to grow and lower the effects of stress.

•Babies are primed to look for two way interaction with their care givers,
including touch, facial expressions, and conversation. When you respond to
their cues, you are literally helping them to build positive brain connections.

•Responding to your baby, especially when they are upset or sick, and
providing them with a safe, supportive and loving relationship is also
important

 

How do I cope with the crying?

Soft sounds: Talk, hum, or sing to your baby. The sound of your voice can be very comforting. You can also try playing some soft music. 

Take a break: If you are feeling overwhelmed, it is okay to take a break. Put your baby in a safe place, like their crib, for a few minutes while you calm down. 

How can I help my babies brain develop

•Baby’s parents help them build their brain into a strong and stable blueprint for the future.

It can also impact their relationships and
physical and emotional health when they
become adults..

Your baby’s brain wiring (neural pathways) is around 20% connected when they are born.

•How well that wiring develops can affect the way they communicate, handle problems, and how they learn.

Consistent, positive and loving relationships help your baby’s brain to grow and lower the effects of stress.

•Babies are primed to look for two way interaction with their care givers,
including touch, facial expressions, and conversation. When you respond to
their cues, you are literally helping them to build positive brain connections.

•Responding to your baby, especially when they are upset or sick, and
providing them with a safe, supportive and loving relationship is also
important. Engage in “serve and return” interactions, like smiling when they smile or responding to their cries with comfort. These small day-to-day moments are incredibly powerful

•Ask for help: If you are struggling, it is important to seek support. Professional help is available and can have long-lasting benefits for both you and your baby, and can prevent mental health issues from taking root

Why is my mental health and well-being so important for my baby?

When a parent experiences poor mental health it can affect the way they respond to, bond with and care for their child. This can impact the child’s
psychological, intellectual, social and emotional development.

How your mental health impacts your baby

Your ability to care: Taking care of your own mental health allows you to be more available and attentive to your child’s needs.

Brain development: Your interactions physically shape your baby’s developing brain, especially in the first three years. When you respond positively to their cues (like a cry or smile), you help build the neural pathways for trust, attachment, and confidence. 

Emotional regulation: As a caregiver, you are your baby’s emotional “co-regulator”. When you help them calm down from a stressful experience, they learn that the world is a safe and reliable place. 

Behavioral and cognitive development: A parent’s well-being is a strong predictor of a child’s social and emotional development. When a mother is depressed, she may be less responsive to her baby’s needs, affecting the child’s ability to learn and regulate emotions. 

Risk for later issues: Persistent stress or a lack of emotional support in infancy can lay the groundwork for later emotional difficulties. 

Anxiety and depression

In England, 1 in 8 men experience
depression, anxiety, panic disorders or obsessive compulsive disorder.
Postnatal depression affects 1 in 10 dads.
Peak time for men to develop postnatal depression is 3-6 months following the
birth, but symptoms can come on anytime in the first few years of being dad.
Signs to look for can include one or more of:
Physical symptoms like headaches,
nausea, indigestion, changes in appetite and weight, diarrhea, constipation and toothache

Insomnia

Confusion

Fear/ Panic

Feelings of helplessness

Uncertainty about the future

Withdrawal from family life, work and
social events

Indecisiveness

Greater risk taking

Frustration

Irritability

Cynicism

Anger

Negative parenting behaviours

Increased alcohol use

Drug use

Partner conflict

Loss of interest in sex or erectile
dysfunction

 

We are meeting together at Sunbeams for an informal gathering for Dad’s and their children

All are pushchair friendly and a warm welcome awaits

Opportunities for peer support, a chat with the coordinator or just a chance to interact with the children and give your partner a break.

“ I received emotional support, texts, phone calls and practical advice and that was very helpful. I felt supported and understood. Mark was excellent, he was kind, patient and knowledgeable. I appreciated his communication methods given my disability. I would like to express my sincere gratitude to Mark for his invaluable support during a difficult time”